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My daughter has always been sick

She will be 45 this year. She has been married, raised 2 kids, then went to college to earn her degree (after her father died). She has endured so much and now is depressed. How can I help her? She recently quit an overwhelmingly stressful job and is now working per diem at a place she loves but for some reason, they won’t hire her full time. As a mom, I don’t know what to say or do. She is wonderfully caring and this job would complete her. Anyway, it’s a rough time right now. Asthma is currently under control but the depression is not. And now she has no medical insurance! But may turn to Medicaid. Anyway, I wonder if this is normal for others to get depressed over this illness.

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  • Leon Lebowitz, RRT moderator
    6 months ago

    Hi Missy’s mom and thanks for your post. Your daughter is very fortunate to have a caring and compassionate mom, such as you are! Based on your expressed concern, there are mental disorders that can be associated with asthma, so Missy is definitely not alone! I thought any of these articles might provide you with some additional insight for this particular issue: https://asthma.net/?s=Depression. I do hope you find them helpful to review. Warm regards, Leon (site moderator)

  • JanetH
    6 months ago

    I’m not a therapist, but I’ll echo Leon’s comment that various mental disorders (mainly anxiety and/or its ugly step-sister depression) are affiliated with asthma. (Disclaimer: all of the below are based on personal experience, not professional expertise.) Asthma is a chicken-egg game with anxiety. Do you have anxiety because you have asthma, and/or is the anxiety exacerbating your asthma? In addition, it’s not uncommon for people with a long-term chronic illness to struggle with depression and/or anxiety. I also have migraines (another story), and between the two, I have to work, hard, to keep the ugly twins at bay. Currently I’m not on an anti-depressant. I’ve tried about 3 over the years. I know there are quite a few, but at present, I’m feeling like, “Been there, done that.” I’m not totally ruling it out in future. Being without insurance can make one VERY anxious, and I highly recommend she start the bureaucratic maze for Medicaid. Perhaps others can suggest how to find resources to help negotiate that. Talk therapy is helpful for a lot of people for many conditions. However, we all know it’s not cheap, and I’m not knowledgeable enough about Medicaid to know if it covers anything at all. Some health departments have limited mental health services available for citizens in their area. Social agencies, such as Catholic or Lutheran Social Services may also have limited services and/or suggestions for therapists in the area. (I’m not touting either one, other than to say that years ago my spouse and I got 6 free counseling sessions through the Lutherans.) My few experiences with counseling suggest that it’s best not to wait until full crisis mode is reached. Finding a good therapist you can afford sometimes takes more than one try. If one is really in need, though, some sessions with a therapist who you may not click perfectly with would be better than nothing, IMHO. Best of luck to your daughter. She’s lucky to have you as her mother, and I’m hopeful she will have happier days ahead.

  • Leon Lebowitz, RRT moderator
    6 months ago

    Hi JanetH and it’s my pleasure. When facilities offer ‘sliding scale’ payments, it can lighten the financial load of paying for therapy to make it more manageable. Thanks so much for your input. Leon (site moderator)

  • JanetH
    6 months ago

    Thanks, Leon. One other thing regarding counseling: some places will have a sliding fee scale. I didn’t want to imply that it’s horribly expensive. I’ve found the costs not terribly unreasonable when I’ve done it.

  • Leon Lebowitz, RRT moderator
    6 months ago

    Hi JanetH and thanks for adding to the conversation. We appreciate your input. Leon (site moderator)

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