How can I prove allergen transfer can trigger asthma attacks?
My partner took our children, moved to a farming community and bought a dog to keep me away from the children. It already caused a nearly fatal asthma attack in June and the presiding judge doesn't believe asthma can be that sensitive and is saying I abandoned my children. I call every night and they don't answer and have tried using filter masks and medical body suits but it terrifies the children so I stay away and just keep calling.
Hi robbym,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I have a few suggestions that I hope may help you.
- ask your doctor for a letter describing your allergy, and stating how allergic asthma (or any asthma for that matter) can be fatal.
- Do you think your doctor will be willing to call the judge?
- If you went to the ER for your attack you can provide this documentation to judge if you haven't already.
- you can find helpful information on asthma at websites for AAAAI, American Lung Association, etc. You can probably print and provide this information to present to the judge.
Talk to your doctor about your allergy and what you can do to reduce or prevent symptoms. For instance, taking your rescue inhaler 15 - 30 minutes before entering the home can help avoid an attack. Ask about pre-medicating with allergy meds, including Benadryl and Zantac (which actually helps with hives and rashes).
If the Tyvek suit frightens the children, take a extra pair of clothes and shoes with you. As soon as you leave (before you get into the car) change clothes and put the soiled clothes in a garbage bag. Use a body wipe to remove any dander (especially from your face and hands) until you can get home to shower. Shower and wash the clothes separately immediately when you get home.
I wish you the best. Please keep us posted!
Lorene, moderatorMy respirologist did allergy testing, wrote me a very supportive and strongly worded letter outlining results and recommendations and feels she is unable to do more without a court order.
The issue is that the court feels the legal process involved in adjudicating the matter would be cost prohibitive and basically pushed me out the door with some slick coercion. I was forced under duress to sign an agreement that failed to address the medical issues I went to court for in the first place. Now I have to prove the danger but can't use the original documents.
If you're asthmatic and don't have $300,000 available tough luck. So much for the Charter of Rights and Freedoms, if you can't pay the fee, it's ok for people to discriminate against you and put your life in danger. This is the business end of the law in 2018.
Hi again, robbym, and thanks for your post. This post is very similar to the very same one you posted a day or so ago within 5 separate posting. I don't know if you had a chance to look over the responses provided to you there. One is from me and the other is from Sam. And now, of course, you have Lorene's excellent reply (above).
For your convenience, I have copied them here for you to review.
Thanks,
Leon (site moderator)
Hi robbym and thanks for your post. I see you’ve spread it over 5 separate postings but, by staying on top of it, the continuity is definitely there. It’s disheartening to hear what you are now going through between your asthma condition, routine day-to-day life experiences, and fighting for custody of some kind. Although I am by no means an expert on these issues, I would think between your lawyer(s) and physician(s), a case of some kind can be moved forward on your behalf. Good luck! and please do check back and keep us apprised of your progress. Wishing you the best, Leon (site moderator)
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SamuelTaylor replied 2 days ago
Hi Robbym, thank you for sharing your story with us an I’m so sorry to hear about what’s happening with the custody dispute. I want to let you know that I have been put in the hospital from my sister coming home from riding a horse. Although it’s hard to show people, contamination is a serious issue that should be taken seriously; hopefully by the courts. It’s a difficult thing to have evidence for though, I wish you and your lawyers the best.
Also, I’m originally from Ontario as well. So I know how hard it is to have asthma there; the cold is difficult, the humidity is difficult and the allergens are really hard in the spring and fall.
I wish you the best with managing your asthma and wellbeing through everything. Please reach out if you have and update, we are always wanting to know how you’re doing. I hope only the best for you.
-Samuel, Asthma.net Team
This comment is from one of our Moderators Samuel Taylor. It got placed below Leon's comment and I wanted to make sure you saw Samuel's comment.
"Hi Robbym, thank you for sharing your story with us an I’m so sorry to hear about what’s happening with the custody dispute. I want to let you know that I have been put in the hospital from my sister coming home from riding a horse. Although it’s hard to show people, contamination is a serious issue that should be taken seriously; hopefully by the courts. It’s a difficult thing to have evidence for though, I wish you and your lawyers the best.
Also, I’m originally from Ontario as well. So I know how hard it is to have asthma there; the cold is difficult, the humidity is difficult and the allergens are really hard in the spring and fall.
I wish you the best with managing your asthma and wellbeing through everything. Please reach out if you have and update, we are always wanting to know how you’re doing. I hope only the best for you.
-Samuel, Asthma.net Team"Hi robbym and thanks so much for providing us with an update. I'm sorry to hear about what you're experiencing with this difficult custody battle. It's sad to see the outcome is not going your way at all. Is there any way that you'll be able to move forward with this? Or is this (court) decision the end of it? Warmly, Leon (site moderator)
